True Beauty??

Many people wonder what real beauty is all about. I for one used to always want to be beautiful but how do you know if and when you really are?

First we have to actually define BEAUTY. Well the difinition of Beauty on Wikipedia is "a characteristic of a person, place, object, or idea that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure, meaning, or satisfaction. Beauty is studied as part of aesthetics, sociology, social psychology, and culture. As a cultural creation, beauty has been extremely commercialized. An "ideal beauty" is an entity which is admired, or possesses features widely attributed to beauty in a particular culture." Now that is a mouthful. I would rather cut it down and say that there are two types of beauty. Internal (beauty of the soul) beauty and external (being physically beautiful) beauty. I believe that to be truely beautiful you need to possess both. That may make me sound bad. I do not mean it to sound horrible but hear me out.

We have all heard our parents tell us that we are beautiful. How many people have been told that it is the beauty on the inside that counts? And when they say that how do you feel? Horribly Ugly? Well there is truth behind that saying, and here it is. You can be the most gorgeous person to walk the face of this planet but if you are a bitch, you lose some of that beauty. So in that sense being told that you are beautiful on the inside is a compliment like it is intended to be, Im sure.

I am what you would call a late bloomer. I didn't know how to style my hair, so I pushed it up into a pony tail everyday. I didn't know how to do my make up so I just didn't wear any. You know how most children go through that awkward phase from the age of seven till lets say twelve or so? Well I didn't grow out of mine until I was about twenty. (I kid you not.) Personally I have heard the whole "beauty on the inside" thing more times then I can count. I never thought that I would ever be beautiful but here's the kicker. I AM BEAUTIFUL. There I said it. And I meant it. I always knew that who I was on the inside was great but physically I didn't think I was pretty. Well it's not that I wasn't pretty. It's that I didn't know how to bring my inner beauty out.

How do I bring my inner beauty out, you ask? Well you need to do some soul searching that's for sure. But you really need to stop thinking about what everyone else is thinking and start doing what makes you feel good. Don't be affraid to ask your hair dresser how she is styling your hair so that yu can do it yourself at home. Don't feel stupid asking questions. They really don't mind explaining it (infact I think they secretly love it). I had 2 children and was about 60 pounds over weight. So for me that included working out, dieting and starting to buy clothes that accentuated my body rather blend me right in to the world. Now I'm not saying that you aren't just great the way you are. But I for one had been embarrassed about the way I looked. So I decided to do something about it. Now, I will never be rail thin but, I am in better shape now then I ever have been (And I still have to lose about 45 pounds). I have become a runner (5K three times a week), do cardio kickboxing classes (twice a week), watch what I eat and still indulge every now and again. I am not doing this to fit into a mold of what I should look like but to feel better about myself. And you know what? I feel great. And guess what feeling great about yourself does to you? It makes you feel beautiful.

So we come back to the beginning where I say that you can't be truely beautiful with out being both internally and externally beautiful. Yes I meant it. But what I'll add in now is that you can't be physically beautiful without feeling beautiful. Without believing that you are beautiful. Now I'm not saying that the gorgeous Hollywood actresses arn't beautiful either. But their best weapon is that they know how to work with themselves and accentuate the best parts about them (or of course their hair and make up people do) but that is beside the point. They are beautiful because they know it. When you feel beautiful, you feel like you are on top of the world. And it radiates from you. People want to be around you. YOU want to be around you. It feels so good. No it feels great.

So keep checking back. This blog is about finding your true beauty. It'll have posts on a variety of different topics. Many being about cosmetics, clothing, "how to" articles to help you accentuate what you want and down play what you want to hide, self-esteem etc. I hope you enjoy the ride.